Lessons Learned in my Thought Closet

It has been a few weeks now since I finished up the Me, Myself, and Lies Bible study that I did along with our ladies group at church and I have been wanting to go back through and make a list of some of the important things that I felt like I learned while going through it.  And since Micah was up and out the door before 5:30 this morning, I had ample time to have a quiet time and then some moments to skim back through the workbook before the boys got up.

It was a really good study and one that I honestly didn't really even know that I needed. Not that I think that I am some sort of spiritual giant with an awesome thought closet, but I just had never really stopped to "listen" to what I was saying to myself and then, once I began to 'listen', I couldn't believe just how chatty I was.  It was like a veritable Niagara Falls of words that just rush through my mind all the time...and what surprised me was that these were the most common phrases that I heard:

  • you must be the world's worst mother
  • you are just a horrible person/wife
  • you are fat and have no self control
To be honest, I know that those are things that I have struggled with for sometime.  I regularly question my ability to be a good mommy to my boys because I don't love to sit and play with them, rarely, if ever, do crafty things with them,  and am often short tempered and frustrated with them interrupting my time.  I know that I can have a tendency to be critical and often get my feelings hurt by Micah which results in my not always being the kindest that I could be to him, or feeling insulted by something that he said when he meant absolutely nothing by it.  And I have struggled with gaining some weight through the last 18 months or so and have become a terrible stress eater which makes me feel like I have no self control.  So, I knew that these were issues that I had, but I didn't realize that berating myself constantly about them in my head could have the ability to wardrobe my life with them.  Just like in life, we wear the clothes that are in our closet, we 'wear' the thoughts that are in our thought closets.

Probably the most freeing thing for me to understand through this study was that "what we struggle with is not who we are."  It almost seems so simple, but yet, realizing that just because I struggle with feeling like a bad mom does not mean that I am a bad mom.  And as I delved further into my thought closet, I began to see that I had been allowing those feelings (mentioned above, do I really have to repeat them?) to be the foundation for how I lived my life.    We spent a lot of time in this study looking at what the Bible says about who we are and how that is what we need to spend time telling ourselves.  For example:
  • Isaiah 43:1--I am redeemed, called by His name and I am HIS.
  • Isaiah 43:4--I am precious in His sight, honored and loved
  • Jeremiah 31:3--I am loved with an everlasting love
  • Romans 15:7--I am accepted
  • I Corinthians 6:20--I am bought with a price
  • Ephesians 1:4--He chose me before the foundation of the world
  • Ephesians 2:10--I am His workmanship, created for good works
  • I Peter 2:9--I am a chosen race, a royal priesthood, a holy nation called out of the darkness into His glorious light
The author of the study spent quite a bit of time encouraging/exhorting us to not allow those lies that we tell ourselves to define our lives, rather, we are daughters of the King and when we choose to believe the lies that we (or the world) tell us about ourselves, it is sin, because we are choosing to believe 'lies when God equipped us to recognize and receive truth.'  ouch.....sometimes, I really don't want to call it sin when I am 'hard' on myself, I want to excuse it as just struggling with issues, having a difficult day, etc.  But when we elevate our own issues and thought processes above what God has told us in His word, then we are elevating ourselves above Him and that is sin that I need to recognize, confess, and ask His help to change that pattern in my life.

The wonderful thing to me about all of this has been the reminder that God didn't just leave us alone down here to figure it out on our own, but we have His word (see above verses and be reminded that those are truths about YOU as well) as well as the Holy Spirit to remind of His truth and help us to speak truth and not lies to our thought closets.  It was a really good study, and while it wasn't always fun to discover the ugliness that resides in my thoughts, I definitely learned some good lessons and my faith is strengthened because of what we studied!


LaCombe said…
Wow, I surely wish I could have been at that Bible Study, for every thought you have has been a struggle for me as well. My children are in their 30's now, but I too always thought I was awful, cause I worked and then had not time for them.Also, I always had a weight problem, and when I get thin, I still say I am fat, so then stress eat and gain again Husband thing as well. Thanks for the verses, I will read them daily and clean out my sinful thoughts. Thank You Becky. Happy Thanksgiving and Lots of Blessings! Love, Kathy
Thank you for your transparency Becky. I definitely tell myself some lies. It sounds like a great Bible study and one I might try to order. I just finished reading The Shack and I felt as if it were my devotional book. One of the things I came away with was how much God loves me because I am HIS not because of anything I do. I know that is something we've heard all of our life but how God/Jesus/Holy Spirit was presented in the book helps see things from a different prespective. I recommend the book..can you tell? :)

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